From experience I have found that most guys all want the same thing from girls. I shouldn’t have to explain what I mean by this. Most guys may have different personalities, but their ambitions/ desires are the same. Dating guys like this is one of the stupidest things you can do. All they do is get you into trouble, or break your heart, but there are a few guys who aren’t like that, and thats what every girl needs. Someone who they can depend on, and someone who is reliable. Theres very few out there so you have to work for it.
There a basically four different types of ex-boyfriends. The first one is the lets call them the “blow offs”, these are the ones that after you break-up you don’t talk to after it’s over. Your not worst enemies , but you wouldn’t call yoursevles friends either. Your just go your seperate ways.
The second group is the “just friends” group. This group is the ones where you just decide to be friends.The name basically says it all. This is the best one in my opnion, because if you were friends before you can still remain friends and not have the friendship ruined over the relationship.
Then you’ve got the “droppers ” This I have been through, and let me tell you it is not fun. I don’t think anyone ever asks for this kind of break-up. It usually just happens turning into this big ordeal, because either one person didn’t want to break up, but something wasn’t right so even though one person may be madly in love, the other person doesn’t care and drops you like a rock.
Finally there’s the meanest way of all, the “diaster breakup” i also have been through this one, and it didn’t end so well. It starts with the simple breakup, and then turns into this huge mess. It gets totally out of hand, and the people just completly loose control and fly off the handle. The saddest thing about this, is if you were friends before you pretty much can no longer be friends.
Once you have had a bad break-up, as you have, it puts a sour taste in your mouth for another relationship, or at least it has for me. All of your examples above are right on, and something everyone can relate to.
But I don’t think that all boys have the same goal in mind. Some have that mind set and goal of ’scoring points’ and others don’t. Like I have said in my posts, you can date someone for their status. Some boys, and girls, do. But others don’t.
So don’t stereotype so fast about such a vast amount of people.
Good Job!
March 29, 2007 @ 10:15 pmSoooooo true. But the not all guys are after, well, you know. When you break up with THEM, it just is different. A real gentlemen will still adore you, just, not in the same way. They might not be a friend, but will still be a shoulder to lean/cry on (pick a word to fill in the corny expression).
PS This is from a guy’s standpoint
Frozen W.
April 2, 2007 @ 8:55 pm